As someone who has done more than her fair share of dating, I can tell you that it can be hard to avoid an online dating misshape. No matter how good he / she looks in his / her pictures, there is always a chance that he / she could be a phony.
Ask for his / her phone number or give him / her yours before you go on a date. There always seems to be stories of someone who didn’t know until the date that the other person was deaf, had a lisp, had a hearing problem, etc. This can be quite a shock to the system on a first date.
Be honest and upfront about what you are looking for in a partner. If you only date men 5’8″ and taller, mark that down. Your guy might show up and turn out to be three inches shorter than you because you didn’t specify a height requirement. If you want to know whether he/she is clean or not, ask them, what have you got to lose?
Look over their pictures carefully and see if you can see any signs of a date. Better yet look and see if their looks changed suddenly from picture to picture. Use up-to-date pictures of yourself.
Have a backup plan ready to go. Set the alarm on your cell phone and when it goes off, tell your date that you forgot about an appointment you had. This is a much better excuse than having a friend call, which is something that everyone knows about now.
Meet for coffee or a quick drink just to see how things go the first time. If the date goes well-Great! and if it isn’t working for you, you can leave right after coffee. Good Luck!
By DeeLish, Auckland, New Zealand