If you are contacted by someone who is in the military, you should do some research to ensure that you are not a victim of a military dating scam. This applies to both men and women, and is something that I have experienced. I am very happy that the MM team responded immediately to my email warning them about a particular user, and I think they take this issue very seriously.
So what does it look like … an attractive photo of military personnel who can only communicate with you by email because they are overseas on a mission. There is usually only one pic of the person. The person declares undying love very quickly. The communication style is confusing … sometimes many spelling/grammar mistakes, sometimes sheer poetry. They are willing to relocate because this is their last mission, and they will move to where you live to be with you. Eventually, they will ask you for money, help opening a bank account, an email that you will send to someone on their behalf, documentation, or something like that.
How do you know this is not real? There is a lot of information on the internet about these scams, but this is how I figured it out and avoided serious harm:
1. If there’s only one picture, use Google Images to search that picture. You’ll likely find it (as I did) as an image on the internet with someone else’s name attached to it.
2. Search the name on the internet. It may be a play on something else. Forexample, the person who contacted me was a Marine called “Sgt Rex Michael.” Sgt Rex is the name of a military working dog that became part of a Marine Corps, and was written about on the internet.
3. For the parts of the message that are well written and poetic proclamations of love, copy and paste it into your search engine. I found that they came up as part of documents called “Poems for your Girlfriend” or something like that.
4. Ask them to email you from their military email account. They should have one. And they shouldn’t have time to be emailing people on a dating site while on mission (most likely).
5. If they ask you for money or anything else, be wary. Don’t do it.
I hope that helps you. Luckily, I only wasted time on my experience, but I did feel violated because I shared details about my life with this person before I realized what was happening. Hope this helps others to avoid the same experience.
By Farah123, Ontario, Canada