Never in my life have I once heard from any woman’s own lips that she is specifically searching for a financially wealthy man to exploit for her own various purposes. Yet we ALL know they are out there. Don’t be fooled! Weed them out immediately. Take steps to avoid wasting precious time and money. Protect your heart! Here are some simple easy tactics:
1. If you have money, do not specifically say so. Do not check the box that says you earn over $100,000. Sure, you might get more dates, but do you really want to waste your time like this with women who are specifically selecting for money? Instead, either check the lowest income level you find acceptable or simply leave this advertising category incomplete or unspecified.
2. If you have money, don’t flaunt it! Show up to your rendez-vous location by foot, public transport, or bike. Or drive your crappiest car. Leave your bling at home!
3. If you don’t have money, don’t lie and say you do (in order to get more dates?). Do you really want to waste your time and little money you have on a gold digger? I didn’t think so.
4. Find out what types she’s dated or had relationships with in the past. If she has a significant history of dating Daddy Warbucks, what do you think she is most likely used to and desires?
5. Agree ahead of time that you will be going “Dutch”. Many women call men “cheap” in this circumstance; name-calling like this is a secret psychological weapon used to “shame” men into spending money on women they know almost nothing about. As I recall, women’s liberation began in the 1960s. One would think that going Dutch on a first meeting ought to be a reasonable proposal by this time, 50 years later. If a woman can’t handle that, especially on the first “date”, she’s more likely to be very needy in the money department. Again, don’t waste your precious time! This is an excellent test/filter.
6. For your first or even first couple rendez-vous, doe something that doesn’t require much if ANY money. A coffee, beer, lunch, or simple walk in the park, a picnic, or walking the dog. Full-blown dinner and drinks is a massive expenditure of time and money on someone who is of unknown character. Keep it simple and be patient! Often, the “mercenaries” will weed THEMSELVES out after growing impatient after only 1 or 2 dates!
7. Finally, especially as we grow older and accumulate various assets as well as liabilities, prenuptial agreements become increasingly important. Even if you’re head over heels in love, a simple prenup is still a sound and totally reasonable idea. If she truly loves you, she will want to work something out ahead of time, as long as it’s reasonable. If she balks, it’s time to do some more exploration via discussion or even a credit check. Actually, credit and background checks aren’t a bad idea up front either.
I’ve had many friends get crushed emotionally and financially because they weren’t cautious enough and did not take steps to protect themselves. It’s tough out there now, economically. And many people are in various states of desperation. I think it’s wise to be cautious in this area to avoid future heartbreak.
Be cautious AND have some fun guys!
By Oregon, United States
Eliminate guys who doesn’t make time for you easily
I would suggest girls waiting a guy who is willing travel to your city for the first few times.
First, this is for the safety reason. Second, if a guy really serious about wanting to meet you, he WILL make time to come see you even if he silvery very busy at work.
I have been on this site for a while, I received many many many emails, but only two guys willing to travel to me. One guy is very very nice. The other is not.
However, you eliminate many guys who ARE NOT WILLING TO MAKE TIME FOR YOU. THE AMOUNT OF TIME THEY MAKE FOR YOU MEANS HOW MUCH THEY WANT TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU.
Feel free to contact me if you have any other questions. I had a very good experience and also a very very bad one. More than willing to share my experience.
Thank you for reading my advice. I hope this will help you finding a right guy.
By Ready45, Arizona, United States